If you're on this email list, I already know at least one thing about you:
You want to help your kids as much as possible.
In school, at home, and in life, every good parent has the instinct to jump in and help out when you see them encounter a problem, or start to struggle.
But unfortunately, sometimes helping backfires.
You get the old: "That's not how Mrs. Anderson told me to do it!"
Or the: "Mom! I got it! Just let me do it..."
Or worst of all: the blank stare (and you know they know what you're saying).
And it's tempting to think that it's "just a phase" or that they're just being difficult. What we don't realize though, is it could just be the actual words you use that make all the difference.
When you "tell" your kids how to do something, it doesn't usually go over well, because they can either (1) get defensive, or (2) decide to shut down and not come back to you again when they need help with something.
So I cover: